I loathe petty arguments over nothing. Here's the situation, and here's how it went down.
I'm in an AIM chat with some friends. There's me, Lito, and Robby, and then there's Kailey and Nikki. Kailey went out on a date with someone from her school the previous day. Earlier, I IMed her to ask her how it was, and she said, "It went really well. He's really buff because he's an acrobat." This is acceptable.
So, inside the AIM chat, Nikki and Kailey started fantasizing and raving about this guy out of nowhere, while Robby, Lito, and I were sitting there silently. I'll quote one of the things Nikki said: "OMGOMGOMG LUST LUST LUST LUST HE'S A HUNK HOLY SHIT"
As you could imagine, this wasn't going over very well with the three guys. Nobody likes hearing raves about people of the same sex from people of the opposite sex (if that made any sense; I know it was worded terribly). I decided to speak up. I said, verbatim, "You know, this isn't helping our self-esteem very much.
" I was referring to Robby, Lito, and I. I was also being a bit sarcastic and teasing, as you could tell by the
face. I went on to explain about how I hated it when girls I talked to would make comments like that about other guys. Robby and Lito both agreed with me.
Somehow, this was misconstrued by Kailey and Nikki as a sexist, generalizing statement saying that all women were obsessed with guys. Kailey said that we shouldn't be hypocrites because she knew that all three of us boasted about girls we've hooked up with or lusted after to her and Nikki. I can't speak for Lito and Robby, but I know that I've never done this. I know how it feels to be jealous over relationships, so I go out of my way to make sure that my friends don't feel the same way. Nikki decided that I was blatantly and openly lying about this and decided to call me out. I challenged her to prove where I've said something like "OMG THAT GIRL IS SO FUCKING HOT I WANT HER" before. She couldn't produce, instead choosing to get angry, call me a "retard", and cite examples [sic] of "remember that one time a few months ago". Yeah.
So Nikki, after making some more threats, rage-quit from the chatroom. I delivered a low blow and said, "She tends to have random mood swings." This was in reference to the fact that she takes comments seriously and gets upset easily. Once again, I know that it was a low blow, but I was pissed at this point. Kailey, seeing this comment, decided to take the initiative and started insulting me, calling me a generalizing hypocrite for making a comment about all women like that.
All women? What?
That's right. Kailey decided that my comment about Nikki's tendency to take things seriously was a sexist remark saying that all women had random mood swings due to their periods.
I can't make this stuff up.
So apparently Kailey messaged this to Nikki because Nikki came back into the chat and started bitching me out, making idiotic assumptions about how I'm sexist and generalizing and oversimplifying and a misogynist and whatnot. I started getting extremely angry at this point because she had absolutely no basis for these claims except for her own, overactive imagination.
It was around when Nikki started spamming "UR A RETARD" into the chat that I decided to man up and apologize. I'll be the first to admit that this argument was my fault. I started almost every facet of it. I admitted that it was a waste of time, that I overreacted, and that nobody was wrong. Guess what that did? Nothing. It elicited another "retard" comment from Nikki, but for some reason I just didn't care.
I'd like to think that I'm not very biased in this situation. Sure, this is coming from my side, and Kailey and Nikki have completely different stories, but I have the chatlog. If you read through that, you'll find exactly what I said. Even more reason as to why I feel that Nikki is so incorrect in this - a couple other people joined the chat shortly after this feud started, and they basically said that Nikki was acting like a fucking bimbo.
The end. I hate shit like this. >_>